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Practicing Authentic Community: Third in the Series "Flourish: How to Bring Out the Best in Yourself"

While relationships can (and have) deformed us and caused us to hide our souls and languish because of it, authentic, generous, and kind community can heal and transform us into the splendor of Christ’s light in us. Third in the series: “Flourish: How to Bring Out the Best in Yourself.” This week is an invitation to the spiritual practice of authentic community. It’s a meditation based on Acts 9.17, 2 Corinthians 5.17, and this quote from Anais Nin: “Everyone of us carries a deforming mirror where we see ourselves as too small or too large, too fat or too thin . . . . Once the deforming mirror is smashed, there is the possibility of wholeness, there is the possibility of joy.”

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If we are going to flourish, we will find ways to practice what I call “deep self-inquiry”—if we do, we will, as I said two weeks ago, discover that we are probably far more than we’ve become. Or as I said last week, “We’ve got more inside us than we ever dared to dream.” If we practice deep self-inquiry, we will discover that who we’ve become may not be, in fact, the fullness of who we truly are. And we will discover that the painful, frightening, and unwelcome experiences of our lives often invite us to wake up to the truth that we may not yet be living from our true identity—from the depth of our soul’s true goodness, beauty, and power.

This journey of our soul, the journey into flourishing, will require courage, a gutsy vulnerability.

Practicing Deep Self-Inquiry | First in the Series: “Flourish: How To Bring Out the Best in Ourselves”

I want to thrive. I don’t want to die never having lived into who I really am. I don’t want to hide in fear or smallness. I don’t want to wear masks. I want to understand what drives me. I want to respond to what calls to me. I want to be strong and vulnerable, compassionate, boundaried, courageous, energetic, playful, determined, and focused. I want my outer life to manifest the pure gold of my soul. And I want this for those around me; I want this for everyone; I want this for all of nature. The wellbeing of everything requires it. Justice for everyone demands it. There is no wellbeing without flourishing, and there is no flourishing without justice.

Following the early fall eco-justice series (here and here), “Cooperation Not Exploitation: Finding Ourselves in the Great Web of Life,” I’m now teaching/preaching around the theme, “Flourish: How to Bring Out the Best in Ourselves.” The series is based on the New Testament text, Matthew 15.11 (Jesus said, “It’s not what’s outside you that brings trouble and ruin, but what spills out from inside you”) as well as the early Christian text, the Gospel of Thomas, saying 3 (Again Jesus said, “When you know yourselves, then you will be known. But if you do not know yourselves, then you will live in poverty”). Click here for the audio recording. Click here for the PDF of the Deep Self-Inquiry Questions.

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Once upon a time there was a tigress, she was pregnant and about to give birth. One day, late into her gestation, she was out hunting and came upon a herd of goats. She was ravenously hungry, and sprung upon the goats who scattered in a frightened frenzy. In her pregnant condition, she was only able to catch the weakest and smallest goat in the herd. The stress of the chase forced her into labor. She died giving birth to a single cub.