When we're addicted to discontentment

In my last post, I offered a suggestion about why you may not be as happy as you'd like to be.  The inability to be where you are, your discontent with what is, siphons off the spiritual energy you need to meet and experience God here and now.  And meeting and experiencing the Divine is the source of all happiness. There may be some very good reasons you're not happy, why you don't want to be where you are.  I won’t minimize them. Wanting to be elsewhere is a universal human condition. By “elsewhere” I’m referring, of course, not so much to a place but to a condition. This discontent with things as they are is the ambition that drives a politician to address some kind of change for the common good. It’s the force that drives a scientist toward a new discovery. It drives us to plant a garden, hang a painting, clean the house, loose weight. It’s a drive that has tremendous power for creative improvement.

But it also has tremendous power to keep us perpetually dissatisfied. When it does, it splinters our energies and fragments our lives. It keeps us off balance, and alienates us from the spiritual grounding we desperately need. The trouble is, we can become addicted to this discontentment. When we do, we’re walking toward disaster spiritually. You might say that this drive to always be somewhere other than where we are—whether it’s spiritual ambition or discontent with life as it is—leaves us with our feet planted firmly in midair, neither in heaven, nor on earth.

Why you're not happy

If I asked you why you’re not as happy as you’d like to be, you’d probably say that whatever degree of unhappiness, resentment, or frustration that’s within you is due to something about your work, your health, your relationships, your financial situation, or something having to do with a condition outside you. In short, there’s something within you that wishes things were different outside you.

You're not content with things as they are.

God is in the mundane or God is nowhere at all

Escape, of course, holds great allure. I get that.  Believe me, I know it’s pull. But the truth I’ve learned from experience and the witness of those who’ve lived life best is this: God’s waiting to meet you in what you probably consider the dullest chores, the drabbest moments, the most unexciting and uninteresting places of your ordinary life.

God is in the mundane or God is nowhere at all.

Your inability to embrace that truth keeps you from the happiness you desire, the experience of love you seek.

Believe it or not, the greatest moment of your life is the one you're now living

Whether you’re one who’s had to start over completely, or you’re a person who vacations or retreats periodically to keep your wits about you and keep yourself whole, at some point your respite must end and you’ll have to plunge yourself back into the routine of living here and now. To live well, and to live in attunement with God who is with you here and now, you’ll need to get over your wistful longing to be elsewhere else. If you don’t, you’ll stay stuck in the past, you’ll get lured into the future, and you’ll never live in the only place life can be lived—here, now.

The greatest moment of your life is the one you’re now living, but you’ll never taste it so long as you’re wistfully looking elsewhere for it to appear.

Would it be easier if we just started over?

I heartily recommend periodic retreats—as long as we don’t idealize these escapes and delude ourselves into believing that praying would better or easier if we bailed on life and started over again somewhere else, someplace more sacred. There are, of course, a few of us who must start over completely—so twisted have our lives become, so entangled with dysfunction. Some of us may have to escape permanently from what has become of our lives up to this point. But one day we who’ve ducked out for a while will have to return to the ordinary dailyness of the new life that’s emerging within us.